It's now the third Labour Day weekend of the pandemic.
Sunday, 4 September 2022
Faint-hearted
It's now the third Labour Day weekend of the pandemic.
Friday, 22 October 2021
Taking thrills where you can get them
I'm taking in an extra loop of the neighbourhood, to get in a bit of exercise before going to get Demeter's dinner. A neighbour from down the hall in our building, spots me and scurries across the road to approach me.
"Are you on your way to Roots Cellar?" she inquires eagerly.
Roots Cellar is a local grocer specializing in local produce and "nutritious food and healthy lifestyle choices". It is, as you can imagine, rather upscale and very middle-class, despite its claims for being "dirt cheap". The business is expanding, and has just opened its second store in Victoria, after a long wait of nearly a year. The selling point, in addition to what has already been mentioned, is in supporting local businesses and producers, which is not to be sniffed at.
It's been a long year without a local grocery. The small and even more specialized organic food store appeals to a very narrow (and comfortably off) vegetarian/vegan/gluten-free clientele.
When we lived in Fairfield in the nineties, there were two supermarkets in Cook Street Village, both doing steady business for years. The Country Grocer closed down in the aughts, replaced by (of course) expensive condos. Oxford Foods (named because it was on the corner of Oxford Street) soldiered on in its grungy glory, featuring the kind of items prized by pensioners, of whom there are a lot in our neighbourhood: packaged foods, canned foods, cleaning products... Their produce was serviceable, but not all that fresh, and mostly imported. The owners decided to retire and sell to the younger couple who runs the original Roots Cellar.
As it happened, I told my eager neighbour, I had popped into Roots Cellar early that morning, securing a Bosc pear for Demeter (one of her favourites) and having a quick look around at dazzling stacks of every kind of fruit and vegetable imaginable, up to and including jackfruit and pineapples.
If you're in the market for dairy products (see what I did there?), you're in luck: wide varieties of yoghurts, milks, sour cream, and whipping cream in many forms, to say nothing of a huge selection of cheeses. There's a meat counter and a deli counter, and many options for meat substitutes. A small display of ice creams, a modest bakery and baking section. No boxed cake blends (small bags, though, of more local mixes). Absolutely no paper products, or cleaning aids. If you want cereal, you go to the bulk bins for rolled oats or granola. Very West Coast.
So, no one-stop shopping, but an easily accessible place for staples such as eggs, milk, or fruit. It's been more than nine months since Demeter's fall, and my being able to quickly replace supplies will be a welcome change from making do with what I can find in convenience stores.
Our condo building was positively buzzing with giddiness. Over a grocery store.
The Resident Fan Boy, trying to transport a heavy basket to the laundry rooms upstairs, encountered neighbour after neighbour, unseen for months, using the elevator to get to the sidewalks and join the pilgrimage.
Is this touching or pathetic?
Monday, 18 October 2021
My great-aunt's twenty-day marriage
This is a tale of two great-aunts. One is mine; one is the Resident Fan Boy's. I'll tell you the tale of my great-aunt first -- although, in this case, it's more about her husband. Not because he was more important or interesting, but because I'd never thought much about him -- until last week.
Ever since testing Demeter's DNA at Ancestry a little over a year ago, I've been working through hundreds of matches, labeling whether they are paternal or maternal, and, if possible, to which branch they belong.
It's not boring work, but, the smaller the number of centiMorgans shared, the more likely it is that there are few clues to connections. Sometimes my mind wanders.
Last week, as I marked and noted, I found myself thinking about my great-aunt, who was swept away in the final wave of the great influenza pandemic. She died on February 19, 1919 in Wolverhampton, at age 26, struggling to speak to her husband of six months.
It occurred to me that I didn't know when her widower died. All I really knew about him was that he was an army driver during World War One, and that, some time after losing his wife, he asked my grandmother, who was eight years her sister's junior, to marry him. She turned him down. (Obviously.) However, his name remained in her address book for at least the next decade.
I set about trying to find his death registration, but his name wasn't unusual, and there are several registrations for men bearing his name sharing his birth year, or thereabouts.
I found him in the 1891 census and narrowed down his birthdate to late February 1891, as he was noted as being six weeks old when the census was taken on April 5th. He was the only son, with many sisters, raised in Wolverhampton, as my grandmother and her siblings were.
I found a possible second marriage for him. My grandmother's address book, a birthday gift when she turned 19, ten months after her sister's death, has him first in Coventry, Warwickshire, then later in Newcastle-on-Tyne, as a manager for Daimler. The 1939 National Register, taken just after the United Kingdom declared war on Germany, has a fellow born in late February 1891, a manager for a motor company, with his wife -- whose given names match those for a marriage registered in Coventry, a little over a year after my great-aunt's death. The wife would have been almost the exact age of my grandmother.
However, the wife didn't have an unusual name either, so finding a death record was as daunting as locating one for her husband.
Before giving up, it occurred to me to double-check his World War One military record. I don't think I'd given it more than a glance.
As I'd mentioned, he was a driver for the army, signing up shortly after the declaration of war in 1914 -- in Coventry, as it happens. His army documents gave me a date of marriage, and it was different than what I had in my records: 11 July 1918 at St Jude Wolverhampton, my great-grandparents' parish church at the time.
I checked the dates of his postings. He had been given a furlough in order to be married, and returned to France ten days after the wedding, so the wedding date in his military record is the correct one.
He didn't return to Wolverhampton until nearly three months after the war ended. He left France on February 9th, 1919 -- ten days later, his bride died of influenza.
Out of six months of marriage, they had been together barely twenty days. (Oh gawd. Did he bring the contagion with him?)
I'll tell you the tale of the Resident Fan Boy's great-aunt tomorrow.
Monday, 11 October 2021
From away
Friday, 1 October 2021
Getting miffed
October is usually one of my favourite months.
This one will have its challenges.
Younger daughter had her first in-person recital in over two years last Sunday. The event was masked (including the singers, who wore special "singing masks"), carefully spaced, and our British Columbian vaccine cards (mandatory the following day) were checked for admission.
At lunch, following the concert -- which went well, thank you for asking -- elder daughter's godmother remarked that she had a number of friends still refusing the vaccination.
"In the beginning," she said, "I was willing to see this as a difference of opinion. Now, I'm getting a bit annoyed."
Coming from a very conservative, and, to be honest, rather eccentric lady, this was a remarkable statement.
She was concerned about the surgeries, procedures, and treatments being deferred by the number of COVID cases in hospital, the vast majority of which are the unvaccinated. I'm getting a bit antsy myself. The Resident Fan Boy needs treatment for a condition that is not life-threatening -- yet.
Sunday, 19 September 2021
Perspective
Friday, 3 September 2021
Standing room only
For the first time in months, I shiver slightly, and battling my surprise, pull on my fleece jacket. It's not even Labour Day yet.
I find myself remembering a very chilly morning in late January.
A lady was standing by the coffee-house window counter, gazing out at the winter drizzle, as I set up my journals at my accustomed table, idly wondering why she'd chosen a spot within six feet of the tables.
In those mid-pandemic days, the stools had been taken away from the raised counter, because they didn't work well with social distancing, nor with the constant sanitizing then required. Still, if she wanted to stand at a counter, there was an identical one on the southern side, where, from May 2020 to May 2021, there were no tables at all.
I decided to ignore her, and strolled to the bar to pick up my mocha, and as I was setting it on my table, preparing to take my seat, one of the young baristas approached the lady and gently asked her to move. She offered her a nearby table, saying something about the need to sanitize.
In response, the standing-room-only lady stalked out. Clutching her coffee and sandwich, she glared back into the window that faced my table. I gazed steadily back; she was clearly muttering about the injustice and embarrassment.
I then wondered if she thought I summoned the barista.
Monday, 30 August 2021
And beauty shall reign alone
Sunday, 22 August 2021
Sus. Very sus.
Wednesday, 4 August 2021
Barefaced guys
It was only last weekend that I first started noticing that people were entering my local coffee shop un-masked. After more than a year, it was a startling sight - and I also noticed that, with one exception, the maskless ones were male, and on the younger side. (The exception, of course, was a young female, clearly in the company of her boyfriend.)
Saturday, 31 July 2021
Do I belong there?
Wednesday, 30 December 2020
We'll have to muddle through somehow
Have you noticed how when people sing "Have Yourself a Merry Little Christmas" this year, they revert to the original lyrics?
Someday soon, we all will be together, if the fates allow. Until then, we'll have to muddle through somehow...
Our Christmas Day may have been similar to other Christmas Days, but it's the line of days between Christmas Day and New Year's Eve that emphasize how this holiday season is like no other in peacetime.
I get poignant reminders, through my journals and via the FaceBook "On this date" feature, that our usual second, third, fourth, fifth and sixth days of Christmas were usually given to visiting and being visited, of seeing the movies most likely to be nominated for Academy Awards in the coming year, of making our annual trek to Butchart Gardens for the Christmas afternoon tea, even the occasional concert or play.
Yesterday, I had a series of tiny triumphs. The current situation has slowed parcel delivery, so a handful of love offerings have not yet arrived, making the line of daily small gifts for the Twelve Days of Christmas rather sparse. I grabbed a rare moment on my own to quickly hit a couple of downtown shops, and located a Doctor Who calendar for the Resident Fan Boy for the Eighth Day of Christmas, and a much-coveted video for younger daughter's Fifth Day of Christmas. My finds were made all the sweeter, being from local businesses.
After lunch, we perused one of the sites for the annual Habitat for Humanity Gingerbread House contest. Normally housed in a hotel lobby, they have been spread out to a number of different venues, where you view them through glass from the sidewalk. A bit bleak, but better than nothing.
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| One of this year's candidates - yes, it's gingerbread |
This morning, I awoke to "gremlins", resulting from a disturbing and accusatory dream of younger daughter's being back in school (thank god she isn't). And as I lay there, fighting off the feelings of panic and failure, I also struggled with the recurring question that assails me every damn time: Are these gremlins a delusion of the dark -- or an epiphany of waking clarity? I fervently pray it's the latter.
Of course, then I checked my phone - big mistake - and encountered the doom-scroll of the situation in Britain, their hospitals with lines of ambulances outside, waiting for unavailable beds, and the country finally toppling into Brexit. Of course, now elder daughter lives there.
Next year, all our troubles will be out of sight. Because it will too dark to see them?
Thursday, 24 December 2020
Just another day in paradox
The light is ebbing from the westward horizon, and outside, vehicles, clearly with somewhere to be quickly, streak eastward.
We in the middle, with just a few small tasks to do, are finding the stillness.
The Resident Fan Boy is on his headphones, attending Christmas Eve services at the Cathedral virtually.
Elder daughter has wished us good night from London, where it has been Christmas Day for a quarter of an hour. Just before we turn in this evening, we will join her again as she wakes at seven in the morning to open her stocking.
Younger daughter has stashed away the cat's Christmas stocking that she assembled this afternoon. I can hear her warning him away. He can smell the catnip.
Demeter dropped by to deposit her Christmas packages at the base of our tree, hurling them from her walker with soft plops on to the aluminum foil we've put down to discourage the cat, so I'm guessing we're not getting breakables. She'll be back for Christmas lunch, ordered from the local Japanese restaurant, probably the one eatery staying open tomorrow. (Christmas dinner, our usual tourtière, is waiting in the freezer.)
It's a Christmas like no other -- which is much like other Christmases.
Christmas is kinda like that.
Monday, 7 December 2020
Hurricane Stacey
So I nipped into Demeter's apartment to drop off her litre of milk, having forgotten that her cleaner would be there. It's been a while since her last visit - Stacey was prone to not feeling well long before the pandemic reared its ugly head. Still, she's capable of giving Demeter's place the kind of cleaning that would wipe my elderly mother out, and I prefer not to get in the path of the whirlwind.
Stacey, it seems, has been bored and she tells me that she's been educating herself about China.
"Yay," I say, in a bid to be supportive, although something deep down stirs uneasily. Stacey is a bit out there -- even by British Columbia standards.
The conclusion Stacey has reached, based on her "research", is that Canada is heading the same way as China. Communism, she clarifies. She's searching out protest groups, to join in demonstrations against the measures the government has been implementing.
Demeter, whose hearing hasn't been the best for the past couple of decades, looks blankly at her.
"The Canadian government," Stacey emphasizes, for Demeter's benefit.
She tells us she phoned the Unitarians - our church, as it happens (not hers; she's Church of Truth) - in search of fellow protesters, and was displeased by their response.
"I thought the Unitarians were in favour of human rights," she tells us angrily.
Standing next to Demeter, I can't help myself.
"They are. In the human right to live."
She narrows her eyes. "Oh. You're on that side."
She continues: "That big flu epidemic a hundred years ago, we got through that without restrictions."
She's talking to the wrong person. There certainly were restrictions, but I go for the jugular.
"Millions died, Stacey. We had family die in the Spanish Flu Epidemic."
"I guess you won't be protesting."
Damn right.
I avoid her for a while, shaken. I'm not a fan of confrontation. The next time I see her, we discuss the weather. We don't discuss hurricanes.
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| Vancouver - October 2020 - Darryl Dick photo |
Wednesday, 2 December 2020
Seeing spots
Friday, 1 May 2020
Aren't they supposed to be immortal?
Not sure what an angel and a demon are doing under lockdown. "Setting an example" sounds a bit flimsy.
Thursday, 30 April 2020
Instead of sheep
Should it ever become a problem beyond the occasional Valerian, I could always take Bing Crosby's advice and count my blessings. I have a baker's dozen, at least.
1) I am at home with all the comforts thereof, enough food, and a safe place to sleep.
2) I am with my family, including both daughters, and we all are, at the time of writing, comfortable and healthy. I get the occasional uneasiness when I'm stuffy, sneezy, or head-achy, but opening a window usually is enough.
3) We have electricity and WiFi.
4) Demeter is a two-minute stroll (a one-minute panicked dash) away, and she is reasonably comfortable and very healthy.
5) I can still venture forth and get things for my family and particularly Demeter.
6) We are on a beautiful (unusually quiet) street, and our windows afford views of flower beds, trees, and, up until recently, a steadily diminishing number of passersby -- also the occasional delinquent deer. It's spring, something at which Victoria excels.
7) I am actually hearing more from friends than usual, due to, no doubt, their own senses of isolation, but heck, I'll take it.
8) Marie Phillips, due to her own sense of isolation, is blogging again. I'll take it!
9) These days, we have free access to theatre and ballet, courtesy of the Globe, the National Theatre, and the Royal Opera House, among other sources.
10) I have opportunities to pursue family research, my go-to mental health activity in the best of times and the worst of times. I just demolished a major brick wall in the Resident Fan Boy's side of the family tree a couple of days ago. I did lose some sleep over that - due to excitement. Don't say it.
11) We still have access to take-out from several of our favourite eateries, which we support for entirely selfish reasons.
12) Miraculously, some of my favourite shops are offering limited, and very personalized, service: book stores, stationers, hosery... It's my bounden duty to help keep them open, right? And I'm shopping local.
13) I'm not in Hades. Sorry. It had to be said.
Wednesday, 29 April 2020
Confination
This is a video edited from the live concert Stronger Together, broadcast on CBC last weekend. It features Michael Bublé, the Barenaked Ladies, and Mexican singer Sofia Reyes.
The performance is a cover of a recent offering by Barcelona trio Stay Homas, who are riding out this thing by making music from their apartment.
A number of Stay Homas fans are calling out Michael Bublé for covering this song, but I notice Stay Homas has sent a thank-you to all the musicians involved, for using the song to raise money for foodbanks.
Monday, 27 April 2020
"I'm not a doctor." "No kidding."
For all you Mary Poppins fans, who don't mind the occasional cuss-word. (I gather Julie Andrews is one of those.)
Sunday, 26 April 2020
The longest time
This is the Phoenix Chamber Choir (and some friends) out of Vancouver, BC, with a clever take on one of my favourite Billy Joel songs. If you can, get the video to the largest view you can manage, to see what the various singers are getting up to.
Here's the 1984 video, a fantasy in which a sextet of men show up at their thirty-year reunion with most of their hair. (Despite the back-up, Joel recorded all the vocals himself.)








